http://bifactor.wordpress.com/2009/05/27/whats-faith-got-to-do-with-it/ breakdown of the middle ground. Thu, 31 Dec 2009 00:29:30 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 http://bifactor.wordpress.com/2009/05/27/whats-faith-got-to-do-with-it/#comment-24 Rita Sun, 31 May 2009 17:07:43 +0000 http://bifactor.wordpress.com/?p=276#comment-24 Well meaning friends so often say the wrong things. A close friend of mine said two things that hurt deeply. One was, "I think a demon comes on you when you cycle." How frightening it was, as I respected him. If the demon thing was true (I know now it is not), then no medication or talk therapy would help. It made me feel like giving up. The second thing he said was, "Listen to Simon and Garfunkel's song, 'Sounds of Silence,' particularly the line, 'Hello darkness my old friend, I've come to talk to you again." What I 'heard' him say is, "You choose to go to the dark side of your illness." Of course no one would ever choose the deep, dark and desperate state. For these reasons, I believe it is critical to have a sound and wise counselor deal with the issue, 'Stupid things people say.' Well meaning friends so often say the wrong things. A close friend of mine said two things that hurt deeply. One was, “I think a demon comes on you when you cycle.” How frightening it was, as I respected him. If the demon thing was true (I know now it is not), then no medication or talk therapy would help. It made me feel like giving up. The second thing he said was, “Listen to Simon and Garfunkel’s song, ‘Sounds of Silence,’ particularly the line, ‘Hello darkness my old friend, I’ve come to talk to you again.” What I ‘heard’ him say is, “You choose to go to the dark side of your illness.” Of course no one would ever choose the deep, dark and desperate state. For these reasons, I believe it is critical to have a sound and wise counselor deal with the issue, ‘Stupid things people say.’

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