breakdown of the middle ground.

Am I a trigger?

“Oh, they’re bipolar—doesn’t that just mean they’re happy and sad back and forth all the time?”
“No. Bipolar disorder is much more complicated than that.”
“Maybe I’m a little bipolar, my mood changes a lot.”
“Everyone’s mood changes. Anyone can have a mood swing. That’s normal. I can be totally happy and something seemingly out of nowhere to you, could cause me to flip my script. Maybe you’re just wishy wash, maybe you have a short fused temper, maybe your feeling are easily hurt. Going from extreme to another sometimes doesn’t make you bipolar.”

On the most recent posting on the blog “Flying and Landing” One of the first things the blogger says is,

“I do not like the term BiPolar, as it does not describe anything more than polar opposites.”

I agree it’s very true that the name doesn’t only touches on the surface of this disorder’s characteristics. It’s more than just I’m in a bad mood right now. When you and I are upset it’s still within our control to not be. When I feel like I’m pumped up on energy and I’m being all crazy fun—it’s not because my brain is forcing me. Me, myself and I can calm down, chill, its simple enough for me. I’m not bipolar.

Every documentary or TV special I watch on OCD (if you haven’t come across the A&E show Obsessed—I recommend it!!) its always so amazing to me listening to the suffers explain how they don’t like doing the things they do, they want to stop, the wish they could turn off the thoughts in their head that are compelling them to behave as such. And they can’t.
Not by themselvs. The blogger of Flying and Landing writes,

“My first entry Flying and Landing pretty much describes what my mood swings feel like. I have felt helpless at times.”

MYTH: Bipolar disorder only affects mood.
FACT: Bipolar disorder also affects your energy level, judgment, memory, concentration, appetite, sleep patterns, sex drive, and self-esteem. Additionally, bipolar disorder has been linked to anxiety, substance abuse, and health problems such as diabetes, heart disease, migraines, and high blood pressure.

Bipolar looks different, sounds different, and though the general symptoms are the same, the characteristics are personal and personalized.


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How to raise ’em. Addressing those “special needs”

Interestingly enough I started with the idea for this post to discuss whether or not there is a quote unquote “best place to raise a biracial child” and I was lead in another direction to that of adoption.

Honestly when my views on adoption have been as such: I love it. I think it’s great. I think more people should adopt. I probably will adopt a child myself. I’ve never had any friends that were adopted, so I’ve always been curious why adoptees tend to have this desire to find their birth parents.

I get the issue of health background, but I’ve kind of always thought well, those people didn’t raise you, what’s the point of knowing them? So not shockingly I’ve been a supporter of closed adoptions, and restricted information until they’re 18 arrangements. And whereas I think it’s great that people adopt those not of the same race as them, in the back of my mind I kinda though well why doesn’t everyone adopt a kid that looks kind of like them, so they can delay the whole, I’m not your birth parent conversation as long as possible.

Remember though I’ve held these opinions as someone who doesn’t know any adoptees, and if I did I’m sure my previous thoughts on the subject would vary.

So I started reading up on transracial adoptions.  The formal definition of it refers to the adoption a child who’s racial or ethnicity varies from that of their adoptive parents. More commonly it refers to the adoption of biracial or black children by white adoptive families.

It should be noted that in pretty much all the literature I found on the topic, the term biracial was only used to describe someone of a white and black background—which technically isn’t the correct usage of the word, but when people think biracial that’s probably what they’re always going to think first.

Just a note: many professionals in adoptive fields consider black and biracial children who need parents as those with special needs. There’s a lot of discussion out there because people tend to jump to the conclusion to take special needs as being negative and a handicap. When in reality, they do require special attention in “other” ways.

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