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breakdown of the middle ground.

Why is Miley Cyrus dancing dressed as a bird and shaking it with a girl?

(yeah its just for a second, but it was a zoom in so its definitely there!)

Because it hints at something “chic”

Sigmund Freud really started the whole mass public sexuality conversation back in the 1920’s. In the United States that decade in particular was all about social experimentation. His theories suggested that “people would behave in any manner to satisfy sexual desire…”

Around the time the free love movement of the 1970’s was wrapping up, a new media-generated “wave” came about by means of a “faddish” attention regarding bisexuality. It became chic… As celebrities like David Bowie started coming out as bi, social interest came out too. The term bisexual chic suggests a level of public acknowledgement, while at the same time still falling short of a solid context of what it really means to live with bisexuality as an orientation.

It seems the larger the city, the more prevalent the nightlife scene is, and the more interested women are in enjoying sexual adventures. From the club to the bedroom, music makes you do crazy things…Just like then, the past few years have brought about another wave of taboo freedom, experimentation desires, and people getting in touch with both masculine and feminine sides. And take two, another burst of bisexual celebrity admissions as come forth. The likes of Fergie, Lady Gaga, Mika, Megan Fox, and Duncan James—just for starters! (Notice how a lot of the newly out bisexuals are singers?? Interesting…)

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Fence sitters not allowed

Are you scared to say you’re bi or something??

As I watched Bravo’s Million Dollar Listing, I was surprised to hear seemingly open bisexual real estate agent, Madison, refer to himself as a “gay” man. This is first time I’ve ever heard him refer to himself as gay verses bisexual…Why does that seem to happen… people that identify as bisexual sometimes have no problem casually saying they are gay, but they don’t casually say they’re straight? And if they’re bisexual by definition shouldn’t they? (lol)

Furthermore, it seems like the race card’s former one drop rule, has resurfaced as something like the one kiss rule.

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Frustrated, Intrigued, and Questionable

I’m sitting here feeling three things: frustrated, intrigued, and questionable.

I’m frustrated became the guy I’m currently dating is an urber guy’s guy. We’re talking alpha male all the way. This is good in some ways because I have s short attention span, and beta males’ just plan do too much. He’s kind of like a mojito. He is sweet—not a bad boy or anything, but he’s manly enough that no bad boy guy is gonna call him whipped.

It’s just frustrating because he’s also a workaholic. But I dig that because I’m a perfectionist in the workplace myself. It’s these damn sport seasons that are killing me! I swear there is some game going on everything night…hahaha

On to the next topic…I’m intrigued because …

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Revealed!! How to date a bisexual!

I think it’s really amusing that wikihow has an article called “How to Date a Bisexual Person.” Why is this necessary?

Is there a how to date a straight person section?

How to date a gay person sub category?

Entire magazines and books and sections of bookstores cater to the concept of dating period, why this additional addition?

Do the same basic principles not apply? In America at least isn’t all that complicated…

So in this how to posting thing a mu-jig, its first explained that just like straight or gay people, the vast majority of bisexuals want a monogamous relationship. You’ll find in every sexual preference those into to the multi, or open, or swinger, or cheat-aholic lifestyle—but thanks for clarifying that bisexuals like committal relationships too. Whoever the smo is, the original bi person who ever that was, seems to me like their scandal filled behavior has put a tag on an entire orientation that can’t ever be shaken off. Darn.

Next up on this explanation agenda is the clairfacation that just because a bi person is coupled with or married to a particular sex—it doesn’t make them straight or gay, they’re still bi. This is a good note because since polygamy is not gonna be legal any time soon, the vast masses are going to have to have one gender at a time.

The next five rules to live by, apparently, include: being understanding of the gender feelings, respect their sexuality identity, enter into the relationship as you would normally, and lastly give them space—as in don’t keep asking them which gender they prefer.

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Gender blind meets blind-blind

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So I’m watching this show the other night called “Dating in the Dark”. The premise of it is three guys, and three gals are put on opposite sides of a house, and they all go on a series of dates with each other in pitch dark rooms. Basically they’ve taken away their ability to see each other, forcing them to decide if they’d like to continue dating based on other factors. The concept is intriguing because it’s all about stripping away the immediate pretense of physical looks.

Truth be told though as superficial as we’d all like to say we are not, there is more than a certain degree of physical attraction involved when you first meet someone. How important looks are, and how much further you’re willing to continue, varies by the person, but it’s still a factor. You’d be lying to yourself to say it wasn’t. The great thing about beauty though is that everyone’s idea of it can be radically different, so potentially everyone should have hope.

But imagine that you are actually blind. Since birth (or if something caused it to go away) and your world is 100% in the dark. Unlike the participants on the show, who at the end are revealed physically to whom they’ve been getting to know; there is no luxury of getting the lights turned on for you. How do you then determine your physical attraction? Better yet, how do the blind go about meeting people to decide if they’d like to date them (other than friends and family set ups)?

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